Jul 30 2017

Marriages are down in Japan…

Category: A + Japanese Dating,Uncategorized,World FriendsIchiban @ 3:56 am

Tags:


Sep 02 2016

Marriage New Year Noodles

Category: A + Japanese Dating,Uncategorized,World FriendsIchiban @ 2:56 am

Most Japanese want to be married, but are finding it hard
Sep 3rd 2016 | TOKYO | The Economist

 

marriage

 

A local official in Aichi prefecture set out a daring proposal. Tomonaga Osada suggested that the authorities could distribute secretly punctured condoms to young married couples, who would then get to work boosting the birth rate. His unorthodox ploy won few supporters,…

SEIKO, a 35-year-old journalist in Tokyo, is what the Japanese refer to as“New Year Noodles”. The year ends on December 31st, and, by analogy, the period when a Japanese woman is deemed a desirable marriage prospect ends after 31. It could have been worse: the slang term used to be “Christmas cake” because a woman’s best-before date was considered to be 25.

Soon a new expression may be needed: men and women in Japan are marrying later, or sometimes not at all. Since 1970 the average age of first marriage has risen by 4.2 and 5.2 years for men and women respectively, to 31.1 and 29.4. The proportion of Japanese who had never married by the age of 50 rose from 5% in 1970 to 16% in 2010.

Something similar is happening in other rich countries, but Japan leads the way in Asia. (The proportion of South Koreans who have never married by 50 is 4%, for example.) And whereas, in the West, the decline of marriage has been accompanied by a big rise in the number of unmarried couples living together, only around 1.6% of Japanese couples cohabit in this way. So in Japan fewer marriages means fewer babies—a calamity for a country with a shrinking and ageing population. Only 2% of Japanese children are born outside marriage, compared with over 40% in Britain and America.

Some of the reasons for the flight from marriage in Japan are the same as in other rich countries. Women are better educated, pursue careers, can support themselves financially and don’t see the traditional family as the only way to lead a fulfilling life. Some of the details are different in Japan, however. Couples are expected to have children shortly after getting married, so women who want to delay childbearing have a strong incentive to delay marriage. Even so, a large majority of Japanese still want to get married eventually: 86% of men and 89% of women, according to a survey published in 2010 by the National Institute of Population and Social Security Research, a government agency.

Economics is a big part of the problem. Women seek men with financial security. Men want to be able to provide it. This is hard, however, when more and more young ones are stuck in temporary or part-time jobs. “I don’t want my wife and children to miss out on experiences because we can’t afford them,” says Junki Igata, a 24-year-old trainee at an international hotel chain, who says he will put off marriage until his mid- or late thirties. Men in part-time jobs are less likely to be married than full-timers.

The opposite holds for women: there are more unmarried women among full-time professionals than part-time ones. The problem for them is the persistence of a traditional view of marital responsibilities, which makes it especially hard for a Japanese woman to juggle a full-time career with children. Her husband will often want her to give up work. (Seiko’s boyfriend asked her to do so after only three months together; she refused.) Also, domestic chores are unevenly shared in Japanese marriages: men do only an hour and seven minutes of housework and child care a day, compared with around three hours in America and two-and-a-half hours in France.

People are finding it harder to meet, too. The days of omiai, or arranged marriage, are more or less gone. University students spend their free time joining clubs to bolster their CVs as good jobs become scarcer. Workers toil for long hours. Some reckon men in particular have become shyer (or lazier) about approaching prospective mates.

High expectations pose another barrier. Takako Okiie, a “concierge” at Partner Agent, a sleek matchmaking agency manned by perfectly made-up women, says clients are often all “me, me, me”. They want a dream partner (Ms Okiie says it takes 18 months to knock this out of them) or, at the very least, what Japan refers to as the “three averages”: average income, average looks, average education.

The difficulty young Japanese have in pairing up is one reason why the fertility rate has plunged. The number of children a Japanese woman can expect to have in her lifetime is now 1.42, down from 2.13 in 1970. Little wonder the population is shrinking.

Some fret about a rise in the number of isolated people and “parasite singles”: people who live with and depend on their parents well into adulthood. The state can provide economic support, but the sort of civic groups and community associations that help people feel integrated into society have weakened in Japan as elsewhere. The once-tight connection between workers and their company has loosened too with the decline of jobs for life. “I worry about what will happen when these people’s parents die,” says Masahiro Yamada, a sociologist at Chuo University who coined the term “parasite single”.

Not many singletons have boyfriends or girlfriends, even if they are neither otaku (men who are obsessed with anime or computer games) nor hikikomori (those who lock themselves away in their rooms). Mr Yamada reckons that if people aren’t marrying and aren’t dating, they must be doing something to satisfy their need for intimacy. He is researching whether they are opting for sexual and romantic alternatives such as prostitutes, romantic video games, celebrity obsessions, pornography or pets.

Shinzo Abe, the prime minister, is concerned. His government wants women to have more babies. It would also like marriage to remain the basis of family life. It has paid subsidies to towns that organise dating events, tried to create more nursery places and this week announced a bid to scrap a spousal tax break that discourages married women from earning more than 1.03m yen ($10,000) a year.

Such tinkering may help at the margins. So too would shorter working hours and—more important—an acceptance by Japanese men that they can’t get married on the terms their fathers did. Governments are mostly powerless to direct such cultural change, however. Japanese men and women will either have to figure out ways to live together—or remain alone.

Tags:


Jan 08 2016

New Women

Over 800,000 new women members forecast to join the World Friends database in 2016.
If you have been slow to sign up beforehand 2016 looks like it’s going to be a good time.

Don’t be shy. Try it out!

asian-women

Personals Japan

Tags: , ,


Nov 25 2015

November 22nd “ii fufu no hi”

Category: A + Japanese Dating,Japan News,Japanese GirlsIchiban @ 8:38 am

‘ii fufu no hi’ is what the Japanese call November 22nd.

.“Ii Fufu Day(Married Couple Day)”!logo
The Japanese idiomatic/phonetic play on words enables  November 22 to be read as…
“11 = i i”, meaning “good” and
“22 = fu fu”, meaning “married couple”!

This is the day to show appreciation for your partner for always being there.
Every year, the most idealistic “Partner Of the Year” is elected.

iifufu

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The partners of the year were chosen and are shown above.

Hiroshi Hase, Takami Kyoko and his wife and Fujii Takashi Otoha his wife.

To promote “good couples day”

Votes totalled this year through the Internet was  9,154. (Voting period: July 31 – October 2)

「いい夫婦の日」をすすめる会は、毎年、一般応募の得票数と社会背景を基に「いい夫婦の日」をすすめる会が選出する理想の有名人夫婦「いい夫婦 パートナー・オブ・ザ・イヤー」を発表しています。
17回目を迎える本年の「いい夫婦 パートナー・オブ・ザ・イヤー2015」は、馳浩・高見恭子夫妻と藤井隆・乙葉夫妻に決定しました。

今年の「いい夫婦 パートナー・オブ・ザ・イヤー」は、区切りとなる結婚年数を迎えられたご夫婦のお祝いをテーマとしています。

衆議院議員の馳浩さん・タレントの高見恭子さん夫妻は、昨年から今年に掛けて結婚20周年となり、さらに今年は馳さんが文部科学大臣に就任され重責を担うなか、高見さんは内助の功として支えられている様子から選出に至りました。

加えて、芸人である藤井隆さん・タレントの乙葉さん夫妻は、今年、結婚10周年を迎えられ、一般からの推薦理由でも「結婚10周年というのに新婚のような仲睦まじい感じがした」、「藤井さんが奥様を大事にされている」といった声があったことから選出しました。

「パートナー・オブ・ザ・イヤー」は、「いい夫婦の日」をすすめる会が毎年、理想の夫婦・カップルにふさわしいお二人を広く一般から投票していただき、一般応募の得票数とその推薦理由、社会背景を基に選出しています。 インターネットを通じて募った本年の投票総数は、9,154件でした。(投票期間:7月31日~10月2日)

Tags: , ,


Jul 24 2014

No Brainer

Category: A + Japanese Dating,Japanese Girls,UncategorizedIchiban @ 1:59 pm

Joining up!!! The Friend Finder Personals section!

Why waste your time elsewhere???

 Does it Cost Money to Join?

Japanichiban Personals offers a FREE membership that allows access to much of the functionality on the site, including our popular Groups and Video Chat. There is also a Premium Membership tier that offers access to all features on the service.

 Is English the Main Language?

English is used by most Members for their Profile and Messaging.

 How “Fresh” are the Profiles?

We are adding about 25,000 new Members a week. They come from Japan, Korea, Taiwan, Hong Kong, Singapore, Australia, the USA and increasingly from Europe.

 How Active Are The Women?

Over 80% log in daily. More importantly, they respond to your emails, smiles, chat requests. And they are fun to communicate with as Japanichiban Personals is not as “transactional” as the traditional dating sites.

 What Features Are Popular?

Groups are very popular as they allow you to meet people who share your interests. It is an easy way to start a conversation. Video Chat also generates a lot of interest, especially from women who want to practice English. The Trip Notification is also growing in popularity.

And yes, to get results you’ll have to pay a little….the longer the term the cheaper the rate!

Still not convinced? Just try it for a month and see how busy you get fending them off!!!

Tags: , , , , ,


Jun 30 2013

Mari Yaguchi

Category: J-pop,Japan EntertainmentIchiban @ 12:36 pm

First it was Ai Kago and now another scandal from the ex- Morning Musume old girl’s club.

Divorced and back to work again, Mari Yaguchi.

 

.In the following days there were more press reports about multiple instances of alleged infidelity by Yaguchi. On May 30, 2013, the public relations firm for Yaguchi and Nakamura announced that the couple had submitted their divorce papers.  Neither Yaguchi nor Nakamura, nor their respective agencies have denied the reports about Yaguchi’s behavior as would be expected if the stories were false.

Earlier reports:

It seems like the recent happy marriage of former Morning Musume member Mari Yaguchi and stage actor Masaya Nakamura has already been stained after Yaguchi’s illicit affair was revealed to the public in Josei Seven on May 21.

According to the magazine, the couple has been living away from each other for almost three months now after Nakamura found Yaguchi in bed with 25-year-old model Kenzo Umeda in February. The cheating incident has lead the marriage to be on the rocks and there are no new reports regarding any reconciliation between the two.

As of now, the 30-year-old idol has admitted her scandalous mistake and stated her apology during her variety show, for having such an affair.

Tags: , , , , ,


Jan 01 2011

Ayumi Hamasaki to Marry Austrian Actor Manuel Schwarz

Category: A + Japanese Dating,J-pop,Japan EntertainmentIchiban @ 7:13 am

Manuel’s Twitter this morning:

@Mannie69
Manuel Schwarz
Things are gonna change in 2011 I’m gonna have a beautiful wife 🙂

Tags: , , , , , ,


Jun 04 2010

Testimonials

Category: Japan RelatedIchiban @ 1:39 pm

It’s been a very long time since we posted any testimonial letters from Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network so here are some of the latest ones…

Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network = Love + Marriage + 2 Children = Lots of Happiness!!

Grant, Sydney, Australia/ Satoko, Japan
In a nutshell that is our continuing success story! And we owe it all to Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network. Satoko and I met in Tokyo through Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network right back in 2003 when it was all just starting up, and wow it has changed our lives! Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network was spot on in helping us find each other because one thing led to another and 6 months later in the middle of 2004 we both find ourselves pointing towards mainland Asia as we depart Japan together for an overland trip from Japan to Europe and back to Australia.
A year later we land in Sydney where we now live the idyllic quintessential Australian lifestyle with our little son ‘Lotus” who was a gift from an ashram in India during our travels 🙂 Yes that is where he was made ha-ha. Lotus was made in India, Japanese mother, British father and was born in Australia; how lucky to have three passports and ultimately he owes it all to Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network. If that wasn’t enough, next week we look forward to welcoming Lotus’ baby sister into the growing World of Friends – WOW! Thanks Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network!
It all started with you! Lots of Love, Grant,Satoko,Lotus&??? Anyone out there have any great ideas for our coming daughter’s name?

A Smile Goes A Long Way

Sanya, Toronto Canada & Tony, Toronto Canada
I joined Japan Ichiban’s Friends Network to find a language tutor and someone to talk to about travel and Japan. Accidentally I clicked on a picture of a cute guy who lived in the same city and sent him a smile and he emailed me back. We exchanged emails for a week and started to chat online, then moved on to phone. We talked on the phone every night and got closer day by day. We met up expecting to be friends, however the meeting lead to something else. I sent him a smile in the middle of January, and he asked me out at the beginning of February. We have been together ever since. We both joined to meet people from Japan and to learn Japanese, however we ended up finding each other, a Taiwanese boy and a Serbian girl. We both thank you so much for everything! Without our interest in the Japanese Culture and this great site we would have never met. I read the stories of people who met their spouses here but never thought i would find the perfect guy on this website.

A priceless friendship!

Brian and Risa
My name is Brian. Thanks to your service, I’ve made a very good friend here in Japan. I had just gotten out of basic training and learned that I was to be stationed in Japan. I signed up for a month and e-mailed a couple of people. I got lots of responses, and I responded back to everyone, but only one kept going. So we kept writing back and forth. About two months later I had been in Japan for a month and I kept in contact with my friend. We finally met in person two weeks ago and she has taken me to all kinds of places within the last two weeks. Her name is Risa and she is one of the coolest people I have ever met in my life. We plan to go out again! Thank you, it was well worth the money for a priceless friendship!

I have found a new friend through your service.

Queenie
My name is Queenie. I have found a new friend through your service. Definitely, I may have many chances to find someone to talk to or listen to. So I’m so glad to have a good friend to share my feelings or ideas by sending emails to each other.

many more just like that… you can see all the testimonials when you log in to your Japanichiban Friend Finder account.

Tags: , , , , , , , , ,


Dec 29 2009

Friends Japan Ichiban's Friends Network

Category: Japan RelatedIchiban @ 2:33 pm

Tags: , , , , , , ,